3 Ways to Shake the "What the F" in your Life
Hello Dreamers,
Here's a transparency moment. I once had a particular project that I just kept dragging my feet on. Yes! I had literally dropped the ball. I made very small and sluggish strides towards its completion but I was literally at 98% just looking dumb because I couldn't quite get to the 100. I was literally at the finish line taking a seat. But how Sway? Why Sway? Somehow the "most important" project became the last priority. I'm glad to say that I shared a Light Bulb moment that helped me realized, I was in my own way. It was all me. WTF!
Here are the 3 Light Bulb Moments that made all the difference for me:
1. Acknowledgement- Anyone who knows me knows that I am far from lazy. I work hard. My Virgo self strives for perfection and I am always doing. It's what I enjoy. I'm a serial creator. When the light bulb came on I realized that I needed to own my ish! I was literally beating myself up about this project, wondering why I couldn't get over the hump. Duh!!! There is no hump. I am just being absolutely lazy. As much as I hate that term and as much as I know how it doesn't apply to who I am, it definitely applied to this situation. LAZINESS! The first step in moving forward is simply acknowledging the BS and calling it for what it is. I was simply being lazy. I made time for so many other things but somehow I've allowed the feeling of overwhelm and fear to keep me stagnate. Acknowledge where you are with something. Call yourself out! Like self (Kiy), quit being damn lazy.
2. Planning. Proper planning prevents poor performance. We all learned that in like Kindergarten, right? Plan out what you need to do to get over the hump. I was literally not trying to jump over it but casually and confidently walk through it. It all begins with a plan. I strategically carved out the amount of time I needed to set aside for what I ultimately wanted. I couldn't allow myself to not have time, I had to make time!! It sounds easy to just make a plan but it truly has to be a plan you support and stand behind. It should be realistic and attainable. I ended up creating a timeline, putting it out into the universe and actually working on the last tasks I needed to complete the project. My timeline was perfect. It wasn't overwhelming at all. I set my alarm and spent 30 minutes per night writing until I completed my book. Fast forward 2 years later and I have 2 books and a journal. IJS! Something worked.
3. Accountability. So in the midst of just being stuck at 98% I could wholeheartedly contest that part of the laziness had been because I didn't have one single person on my head, holding me accountable to completing the project. There is this thing about fear that cripples you. Someone (at least 1 person) has got to know what the deal is. You need to get it off of you and into the world. Find that perfect non-judging friend who won't question your effort but instead push you forward!!! I needed that push and after literally opening my mouth and asking, I got it! OMG! That simple. Ask for what you need. Light bulb. But seriously, you need someone to get on your nerves about it because its super easy to get stuck at 98%. It's natural and quite frankly sometimes needed. Whatever you do, Just don't be lazy!
Until next time,
Peace & Sweet Dreaming,
Kiylise Crutchfield, Chief Dream Engineer
